For if They Fall



 If there is one thing that connects us all as humans it is our opportunities to feel like failures.


Today I had a kindergarten parent who felt like a failure.  After working her night shift she was so tired she didn't wake up in time for pickup on her child's first day of school. A bad moment absolutely does not make a bad mama!


My heart went out to her.  At that moment what felt like her child's biggest day ever didn't go as planned, and she was responsible. 


Yet here was her beautiful, well-spoken daughter who was obviously loved and cared for.  Her mom was working as hard as she could to provide for her and the little girl showed me her new shoes and her backpack full of supplies her mom had taken her to walmart to purchase over the weekend.

We kept her child safe, but then also reassured the mom and grandma (who ended up coming to retrieve the child) that it absolutely didn't constitute parental failure no matter how bad it felt at the moment.


Because let's be real.  We have all had those moments.  We forget something,  we let someone down, we handle things with less composure than we wish we had.  Embarrassment happens.  Disappointment happens. 


But when it comes down to it, those things that could most embarrass us, or make us pull apart can actually be the things that pull us together.  If we are willing to be brave enough to offer help.  And if we can be even braver to accept the help in the way it's being given. 


Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

"Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.

For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up."


For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow.

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