Don't Wait

 I went to the viewing for a friend and co-worker who recently passed away.

It was a very long and slow moving line with many, many people arriving to share their condolences with her parents and brother.

Many stories were told and many tears and hugs were shared. 

But as the group of us coworkers came to the line, and introduced ourselves to her parents, her mom became very emotional.

She shared that she sure hoped her daughter could see all the people there for HER, not just her parents but HER.  She said she would never have guessed so many people would come because self-esteem was difficult for her sweet daughter. 

And my heart nearly broke.

How could this amazing lady have not understood what an integral part of our community she was? 

The good she did?

And the friends she had?

To be fair, her mom didn't see her at work and see the network she had built. 

But I am sure there were also times where I failed to thank her, encourage her or connect. 

Missed opportunities. 

I wonder if perhaps we can all do a little better at showing and expressing appreciation, sliding over to make room, and reaching out to create real friendships.  

That's easier for some people than others.

Because of past experiences, personalities, current stress load, a jam packed calendar, our own tragedies and difficulties, etc.

But its something I am convinced every single one of us has been on the down side of.

That feeling like we don't belong.

We don't have a place.

We don't measure up.

We aren't appreciated for what we DO have to offer.

And it's something every single one of us can do to help lift others.

When you see good, say it.

When you notice loneliness, invite.

When you are met with shortness, overlook and forgive.

Think of and follow Jesus Christ.  

Don't wait until the funeral to share your good words.